Miranda, the “frenemy”
Great..just great.. I hardly find the time to write in my Nth blog and now I get to whine again.. Just so you know, I’m not normally a rant-y person.. I even planned to write something positive today.. until I completely forgot what it was.. anyways, on to my terribly biased post..
*sigh*
This is what happens when OLD people try to connect with YOUNG people.
Have you finished reading? I expect you to read it if you are to understand my rant.
First of all, a frenemy is a very very bad person for me. If you’ve seen the movie Mean Girls, you’d know exactly what a frenemy is. A frenemy is someone who deliberately STABS YOU IN THE BACK.
Dr. Kirschner puts the following into the frenemies category:
- A “best friend” takes an instant dislike to a date you really like
- A friend insists that all the “good ones” are taken
- A sister/brother reminds you of your past failures or the duds you’ve fallen for
- Dad criticizes any date you bring around
- Mom clucks about how men/women would find you more attractive if you only lost those 10 pounds
- Your two closest friends flake on the first dinner party you’re hosting with your date
Being a paranoid friend/overprotective father/ fuzzy mother DOES NOT make you a backstabber! Having people around you who remind you to BE CAREFUL is not the reason why love is f**king hard to find! The only thing I’d agree with her on is when mothers tell their daughters they’re too fat.
And what does she have against Miranda (Sex and the City)? She is SO NOT a frenemy! If you’ve seen the movie, you’d know that she had no intention whatsoever to sabotage Carrie’s wedding. Things just happened and she ended up being the bad guy.
Her article pisses me off because she is turning loveless people against their family and friends. She’s giving them an excuse to blame others why their lovelife fails. I know it’s important to get support from people close to you. I know pessimistic people can also bring you down. But seriously, thinking of your parents and friends who worry (whether or less “too much” is beside the point) as your “enemies disguised as friends” is hardly the solution. How many successful marriages are there wherein the parents-in-law hated their daughter/son-in law’s guts?
Think about it. Did you really break up with your last boyfriend because your father thinks his grades/pants are too low? And EVEN IF everyone around you always says, “all the good ones are taken” do you really ever believe it?
Just because someone has a Ph.D. doesn’t mean she’s automatically right. Not everyone who analyzes everything understands it. As a matter of fact, maybe she completely missed the point because she preferred to “study” it instead of “feeling” it. The best she can accomplish with her frenemy theory is to give emo kids more reason to hate the world. Spot and stop friends who botch your lovelife? Whatever!
